"While you don't control external events, you retain the ability to decide how you respond to those events. You control what every external event means to you personally." — The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday
There were no stars in sight when I walked down our street tonight.
And I couldn't help but smile.
I sighed, but not the lonely kind of sigh. It was a sigh of relief—and pride. All my life, I've obsessed about what other people think of me, my life, my choices. But ever so slowly, I have unlearned the habit of outsourcing my thoughts and feelings to the people around me.
It also makes me happy to have finally learned to pause before reacting to a situation, ask myself what I think and feel, and trust both my judgment and intuition instead of dismissing or invalidating it without a second thought.
It is liberating to feel so secure that other people's opinion of you does not bother you anymore. I cannot control how they think of me—but I can control how I think about me.
And honestly, isn't that what matters?