While I've been enjoying the company and wisdom of my friends lately, I realized that being connected with interesting people of different backgrounds and beliefs can be confusing too.
Each of them has a unique perspective—do this, or that. Try this, or that. And in collecting all of their perspectives (which honestly are often conflicting with one another), I found myself stumped.
Which way should I go? Who is right? Who is wrong?
While I appreciate being enlightened about how different people deal with situations, I realized even more the importance of thinking for oneself. Of knowing oneself.
I cannot outsource my feelings and thoughts to my friends—I need to pause and reflect: What do I think? What do I believe?
As a recovering people pleaser, I'm learning to accept pieces of advice as suggestions, not instructions.
It is up to me to make choices that feel right because at the end of the day, I'll be the one to face their consequences anyway.